Even at the dawn of the 21st century, the sexual education of children in America is controlled by attitudes and myths about sexual learning that, in reality, date back hundreds of years. And despite the strong, vibrant, and progressive traditions, many independent schools also remain well behind the curve on this vital aspect of children's lives. In this article, the author explores the reasons educators are so "stuck" in such outmoded ways of thinking about sexuality education, and argues that the "new" paradigm they need is rooted in exactly the same fine pedagogical thinking educators in independent education apply to virtually every other subject matter they teach.