On Feb. 12, 2008, 15-year-old Lawrence King was shot twice in the head in front of other students, in Oxnard, California. When Larry King was murdered allegedly due to a classmate's prejudice, some pundits asked if adults were to blame for encouraging him to come out. One can't be sure what adults did or didn't do in this case, but the question remains: Should adults encourage Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender (LGBT) youth to come out? The author argues that adults should not push a young person in either direction, to be more out or to be more closeted. It is the responsibility of adults to make sure every young person feels valued just as they are and to help them explore the possible costs of both openness and hiding.