This essay focuses on how people respond to cultural difference, and, specifically, two tendencies. One tendency is to romanticize the cultural differences encountered. Another tendency is to rush to a negative judgment about the specific people involved, and about their culture more generally. In this essay, the author illustrates these tendencies by analyzing the difficulties he, his family and his students had adapting to Chinese culture, and by drawing on examples from his own previous experiences. He then proposes a third, contrasting mindset that involves suspending judgment in order to better understand and appreciate cultural differences. This third way fosters other-regarding travel. The author aims to help students make the most of their cross-cultural experience by suggesting ways they might learn to appreciate cultural differences, gain heightened self-understanding, and foster good will among their in-country hosts. The individual actions in the examples in this article, while based on actual incidents, represent responses to cross-cultural differences. The author offers as examples some of his own cross-cultural blunders.