Two major predictors of subjective quality of life (SQOL) in adults are known to be self-esteem and a sense of primary control. Moreover, secondary control is known to be unimportant defense strategy when primary control fails. This study aimed to determine whether these relationships also apply to children. A sample of 66 children aged from 5 to 12 years were compared on their use of primary and secondary control and on their ratings of SQOL and self-esteem. SQOL was measured using the Comprehensive Quality of Life Scale, self-esteem by using the Coppersmiths-Esteem Inventory, and primary and secondary control were measured by coding children's responses to three short video clips of children in stressful situations. It was found that younger children use more primary control and less secondary control than older children. However, five year olds were found capable of producing secondary control strategies. Contrary to expectation, primary and secondary control did not predict either self-esteem or SQOL. However, self-esteem predicted SQOL as expected and no sex differences were found. These findings emphasize important differences from the adult literature and the reasons for this are discussed.