This article addresses the issue of harm in the research process. While researchers seek to conduct research that minimises harm, this paper argues that approaches adopted often create new forms of harm. This proposition is examined through drawing on Bourdieu's ideas about symbolic violence and poststructural theories of identity, to critically reflect on three moments of harm that occurred in research on violence with groups of young people in South Africa and the UK. The paper traces ways in which the research topic, research relationship and dynamics of friendship groups produced physical, emotional and symbolic violence, and asks whether the research was itself an act of violation. Yet sometimes there is value in the conflicts that happen. Conflicts in the research setting may disrupt, destabilise and contest violence, and perhaps the most ethical research position may not be to try to eradicate harm, but to increase these destabilising moments.