This paper applies what is currently known about gay fathers to the more specific issues of the non-custodial gay father. Good parenting is not easy for any father, but being a successful gay father is even more difficult. Since the gay father is typically a non-custodial parent, he must deal with his grief about the loss of contact and quality time with his children. He must work to maintain healthy parent-child relationships while establishing, developing, and feeling proud of his gay identity. Homosexuality's stigma still affects gay fathers and their children and while the transition from the heterosexual to the gay world is not easy, the gay father can successfully accomplish this move. Psychologists should inform themselves on the issues these non-custodial fathers may present and be able to refer such fathers to community resources as well as provide information that gay fathers may need in the integration of their two identities. More research on this issue is needed. Questions such as how gay men adjust to life as a non-custodial parent after divorce and how this adjustment differs from that of the nongay father remain to be answered. (RJM)