This article uses Foucault's concept of the care of the self to interrogate the accounts of ethical agency provided by professionals involved in the settlement of refugees, in a global and national context marked by fear of the stranger and the embrace of neoliberal political rationalities. An argument is made to "free the professional self" by refusing an individualised, psychologised and dehistoricised approach in working with refugees and asylum seekers. In its place, a threefold "ethics of engagement" for "international citizenship" is proposed as a way forward to further professionalism and civic action. By understanding the refugee problem as an "integral part of North-South relations" rather than as a "Third World" problem, new possibilities are opened for an ethics of civility and an ethics of care.