A reflective discussion is presented on the process of becoming an ethical researcher. Interest in the question stems from personal biography. The framework of ethical concerns of L. G. Roman and M. W. Apple (1990) is used to discuss seven issues that researchers commonly face: (1) the writing of a "true" account; (2) the usefulness of the research; (3) the relationship of the researcher and the researched; (4) modesty; (5) demystification; (6) the imposition of theory; and (7) reciprocity. Central to the discussion is the question of the relationship of the researcher and the researched. The materialist feminist paradigm, as exemplified by Roman (1988), places the relationship of the researcher and the researched right at the center of inquiry. Reality is not seen as something that exists apart from its context. The epistemological nature of reality is illusive, captured by the researcher and the researched in a moment of relationship. There is a 22-item list of references. (SLD)