This book was written for teenagers and older children who have abusive, alcoholic, or mentally ill parents. Emphasis is placed on young people in such situations using their intelligence, understanding that parents are fallible, viewing the future with optimism, facing reality, and seeing the good in other people rather than assuming everyone possesses the same shortcomings as their unhealthy parent. The book is divided into 13 chapters: (1) Getting Started; (2) Selfishness--whether taking care of yourself is selfish or not; (3) Mistreatment--how and why parents mistreat children; (4) When Parents Are in Pain; (5) When Parents Cause Pain; (6) Big-Time Feelings--such as guilt, rage, and shame; (7) Troubled Parents and Ordinary Teen Life; (8) Scapegoating; (9) Too High a Price to Pay? Choosing Your Parent Over Yourself; (10) Power Struggles; (11) Why Parents Have Problems; (12) Professional Help: When and How to Get It; and (13) Finishing Up. (JE)