The newsletter article provides parents of children with disabilities guidance on finding a doctor, communicating effectively with him, seeking a second opinion, and accepting responsibility in their special child's patient-doctor relationship. The article identifies both formal and informal methods of finding a doctor and gives suggestions for the initial interview. This report encourages parents to become as knowledgeable as possible about the disability, to refrain from withholding any information from the doctor, to keep good medical records, to follow the doctor's orders, and to ask questions. The article also recommends seeking a second opinion, but advises against doctor shopping. The report cautions parents about demanding new or controversial medical treatments. Finally, the report mentions some specific do's and don'ts including "Do ask your doctor to connect you with other parents of children with similar handicaps;""Don't be afraid to ask questions;" and "Do ask for the last appointment of the day if you wish extra time." (DB)