Students with hidden disabilities can be a handful. Fellow students dislike them. Teachers are wary. But these students need not be lost in the shuffle or ostracized. Educators, parents and the students themselves can--working together--change the attitudes and behaviors causing so much trouble. This article describes how the author conducted a "disclosure meeting" with Matthew, who was coping with Asperger's syndrome, along with his parents, teachers, and other students in order to elicit an empathic response from the students. A year after the disclosure meeting, Mathew had made extraordinary changes. The student feedback was far more powerful and effective than any possible adult intervention.