A perception that some boys are performing poorly both socially and academically is evident in the research literature. This perception has been linked to broader concerns around the transition of boys to manhood. Schools are increasingly paying attention to their role in this transition. This paper discusses the implementation of a rites of passage programme to a New Zealand all-boys secondary school. Experiences of staff and students involved in the programme are reported using their own words as far as possible. Of particular note is the impact of the programme on the teacher-student relationship. The study raises some significant points for consideration, applicable beyond the specific programme discussed and relevant to all schools concerned about supporting boys. (Contains 4 notes.)