To disagree well, one first must listen. Listening conveys respect of the person speaking, especially when your listening includes restating ideas to confirm understanding and let the speaker know you are making this effort. Most of us know this, but still can get caught in angry, argumentative, or defensive engagements. You may know someone who unfriended a person on Facebook because of comments about politics, religion, or even food or child care. This is indicative of a new norm emerging in much political discourse, which is amplified on talk radio and television, and diminishes civility in many quarters. So what can educators do to release us from this seemingly unavoidable trap when speaking with someone who has strong views different from our own? The authors share some little-known but practical ways of closing the gaps between points of view.