Using queer theories of sexuality and gender, this study centers on "coming out" stories of ten queer adults. Engaging Butler's heterosexual matrix (1990) as an analytic tool, stories are analyzed with respect to agency and positioning. Findings suggest that participants' positioning and agency were largely affected by gender identity and expression (i.e., inside or beyond the gender binary). Findings further suggest that the heterosexual matrix was a primary and troublesome framework for all participants as they navigated the complex process of becoming. This article argues that teachers must be supported to offer queer frameworks to create safe and affirming schools.