In the context of identity politics, identity has been perceived as something substantial, inborn and essential--an unchangeable quality of self that waits to be explored and expressed. Its dynamic aspect could be nurtured through enlightenment and experience as one grows up. In this essay, the author wants to explore the dilemma that identity as a commitment holds by introducing a story heard from the authors' close friend who decided to adopt a Korean name after she entered college. The author tells the story of the conflict between one's choice and the way family members choose to live.