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ERIC Number: ED499926
Record Type: Non-Journal
Publication Date: 2007
Pages: 361
Abstractor: Author
How to Protect Kids from Child Molesters
Ayers, Lauren
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When one mother was asked how often she worried about her child's safety, she replied, "Every time she goes out the door." Many parents rely on school abuse prevention programs to teach kids how to stay safe. But what if these programs actually increase the risk of sex crimes that target kids? What happens if parental efforts to safeguard kids unwittingly recycle sexual predators and send them on to victimize other children? And why is it that there are practically no programs to treat criminals-in-training, the 40% of sexual predators who are teens? These questions are the subject of "How to Protect Kids from Child Molesters; A New Approach for Parents, Teachers, Clergy, Recreational Directors and Anyone Who Cares about Children," by Lauren K. Ayers, Ph.D. and Ed Girtler, Senior Investigator (RET), NYS Police. Written by a shrink and a cop, this book aims to end sex crimes against kids once and for all. Sex crimes are crimes against the young, with 67% of rape victims under 18 and 34% under 12, and children rarely tell anyone about these crimes. All current child protection efforts depend on kids to report child molesters, but they rarely do so, and when they do, it happens on the average of fifteen years after the incident. Sexual victimization destroys a child s connection to his family, and increases his risk of school failure, substance abuse, delinquency, pregnancy, depression and suicide. Most child molesters are family or friends of the victim who seduce and con adults to gain access to child victims. The fear of these crimes has led to restrictions of children s lives so that they are limited in their learning activities. But kids' activities online increase their exposure to sexual criminals. This book offers a clear plan for protecting kids from child molesters and gives specific recommendations for parents, teachers, clergy, recreational directors and anyone who cares about children. The book offers ten ways to protect kids from sexual predators: (1) Parent Education: Replace child abuse education programs, like those which teach good touch/bad touch, with parent education programs that teach parents how predators often first seduce parents, and how low self esteem in parents endangers a child s safety; (2) Don't recycle predators: Child molesters must be prosecuted to the full extent of the law; (3) Use mandated reporters: Concerns about sexual victimization or crime risk need to be investigated with a mandated reporter, rather than with family or friends; (4) Teach children safe behaviors: Children need to learn about two deep, escape hatches, no secrets, and hands-to-yourself; (5) Family abuse policy: Every family and every community organization that deals with children needs a sex crimes policy which specifies action to be taken if a child is victimized or at risk; (6) Youthful molesters: Since 40% of sexual predators are minors, adults need to watch out for teen predators and get to know the children in a child s life; (7) Don't act like a child molester: Adults need to avoid touching, nudity, isolation, sexual talk or secrets with children; (8) Cyberguidance: Protecting kids in cyberspace requires that adults know the Internet as well as kids do; (9) Think like a criminal: Adults need to take stock of children s lives and arrange crime-proof settings; and (10) Listen with a third ear: Caring adults need to learn how to hear what kids need to express. (Chapters are individually endnoted.) [This report was written with Ed Girtler. Abstract formatted to meet ERIC guidelines.]
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Language: English
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