The first-person accounts of over 400 middle school students from five diverse schools suggest that three decades of gender equity efforts have fallen far short of their goals. Contrary to the backlash argument that girls are now the advantaged sex, or the perceptions of many adults that both girls and boys are treated fairly in school today, these findings indicate that in terms of gender stereotypes, schools today are more similar than different than those that existed a generation ago. This paper will detail these findings as well as suggest strategies to promote gender fair school policies and practices. (Contains 9 tables and 4 figures.)