ERIC Number: ED450314
Record Type: RIE
Publication Date: 2001-Mar
Moses and Superman Come Home: Counseling Adoptees and Adoptive Families.
Saiz, Stephen G.
This paper looks at three parties impacted by adoption: the adoptive parents, the adopted child, and the adoptive family. When working with adoptive parents, counselors should respect the strength of the couple, their commitment to parenthood, and the closeness that may develop from weathering the issue of childlessness. Adoptive parents are encouraged to feel a sense of entitlement to their adopted child, to not reject or criticize birth parents, and to accept the differences between adoptive and biological families. Behaviors of adopted children include the need to be perfect, fantasies bout their family of origin, and feelings of grief and loss. Successful adoptive families work at acknowledging their differences by participating in family building, practicing equality, realizing the salience of adoption, and maintaining open communication on the subject of adoption. Two techniques for counseling with adopted families are discussed. These include the brief solution focused therapy model employed by the Center for Adoptive Families, and the therapeutic tool of the adoption story. It is important to realize that adoptive families seek counseling services with problems and concerns similar to other families. By ignoring the adoption issues the counselor may contribute to the silent and mysterious influences adoption issues have on the family, or may be ignoring a potential avenue to growth and change. (Contains 22 references.) (ADT)
Publication Type: Information Analyses; Speeches/Meeting Papers
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Note: Paper presented at the Annual Conference of the American Counseling Association (San Antonio, TX, March 15-20, 2001).