ERIC Number: ED416518
Record Type: Non-Journal
Publication Date: 1998-Mar-21
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Are Your Kids At-Risk? Do You Listen to How They Speak to You More Than Just What They Say?
Gilbert, Michael B.
Parents and educators can be described by three predominant personality types as characterized by Kahler's Process Communication Model. Children at-risk are predominantly two other types, and the adults in their lives have little energy to deal with them effectively. Two projects designed to assist the parents of children and youth having difficulty in school were funded by the Family Preservation Unit of the Arkansas Department of Children and Family Services. These projects targeted the staff and parents in the two largest school districts in the state. "Process Parenting" was developed by Taibi Kahler as a focused application of his "Process Communication Model." The model suggests six personality types--Reactors, Workaholics, Persisters, Dreamers, Rebels, and Promoters. Parents are more strongly reactors or persisters, while at-risk children are Rebels or Promoters. Communicating with Rebels and Promoters is most effective when it involves kinesthetic input through either an emotive or directive channel. For parents to become more effective, they must be able to recognize the operative failure mechanisms people project--either themselves or their children. Providing assistance by giving parents new tools to communicate more effectively enhances the child's potential for: (1) completing graduation requirements; (2) preparing for employment; and (3) reducing the possibility that future public assistance will be necessary. Process Parenting is not a panacea, only a useful tool. Parents and their children will continue to try to get their needs met. If those needs are different, effective communication is one of the ways for peace in the family to happen. (Contains nine references, and two tables and a figure of data; sample comments and data from a Process Parenting workshop are attached.) (RS)
Publication Type: Guides - Non-Classroom; Speeches/Meeting Papers
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Identifiers - Location: Arkansas