This ERIC Digest suggests methods and language that can be used in handling difficult, but common, situations involving young children. The digest explains 12 methods of disciplining children that promote children's self-worth. These methods are: (1) showing children that the reasons for their actions are understood; (2) stating reasons; (3) offering solutions; (4) indicating confidence in children; (5) demonstrating how a situation is handled; (6) redirecting children's attention; (7) avoiding accusation; (8) offering alternative choices; (9) helping children express their feelings; (10) establishing firm limits; (11) giving clear and simple directions; and (12) remembering that children need to experience and explore. The digest also lists activities that help create a positive climate that promotes self-discipline, notes harmful and negative disciplinary methods, and lists elements of good approaches to discipline. It is argued that self-discipline is better learned through guidance than through punishment. (BC)