ERIC Number: ED344177
Record Type: Non-Journal
Publication Date: 1992
Reference Count: N/A
Self-Esteem and Couples Counseling.
Palisi, Anthony T.
Family Letter, v12 n4-5 1992
The components of the self system include self-concept, self-esteem, and self-efficacy. Learning that adds to identity augments self-concept. Learning that leads to self-appraisal relates to self-esteem. Learning that leads to prediction of achievement belongs to self-efficacy. Courage to persist when confronted by a "Gulp!" experience provides an understanding of self. The knowledge of self provides the material for self-affirmations, which add information to one or more components of the self system. Consequently, one feels good about one's self. If self-esteem issues are at the root of many problems disrupting couples' relationships, why not attack self-esteem head-on? Almost from the beginning of the counseling the partners speak directly to one another. In Guerney's"Relationship Enhancement" (1977) couples focus on improving conflict-resolution through communication skills training. They do not use the counselor as a conduit for their messages. The counselor is like an orchestra conductor, leading the partners through difficult passages. When one partner has completed her or his message, and the other has demonstrated empathic listening, the two switch roles. The active listener demonstrates that he or she has heard, not necessarily agrees with, what the partner has said by repeating what the expresser has said. (ABL)
Publication Type: Collected Works - Serials
Education Level: N/A
Audience: Counselors; Practitioners
Authoring Institution: National Academy of Counselors and Family Therapists, Inc., Springfield, NJ.