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ERIC Number: ED194191
Record Type: RIE
Publication Date: 1979-Nov
Pages: 8
Abstractor: N/A
Reference Count: 0
Brotherhood/Sisterhood Begin at Home: Notes on Sibling Rivalry.
Katz, Lilian G.
Parents who are frequently frustrated and troubled by rivalry among their children may find the following suggestions helpful. If fighting between siblings is bothersome, stop it. Don't lecture, moralize or nag. Once the unpleasant behavior is stopped, look for possible causes and ways of dealing with it. Children's versions of disputes and other troubles should be acknowledged, even if they are wrong. For instance, preschool children who indicate that they feel left out can be helped if adults give them individual attention and participate with them in an activity they really enjoy. It is important to reassure a child that attention will be given to each individual person's unique needs. Resist the temptation to motivate children by comparing them to others. Children can help parents understand other children. Parents should genuinely listen to their children's insights and suggestions and let them know their insights have warranted notice and reflection. Children should be taught to take pleasure in one another's good fortune. They consistently should be reminded of their unalterable or irrevocable belonging to their parents and to each other. To do so strengthens their inner sense of safety, which is perhaps a prerequisite for the development of the capacity for brotherly and sisterly love. (Author/RH)
Publication Type: Opinion Papers
Education Level: N/A
Audience: N/A
Language: English
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