In spite of the fact that we are all bombarded with sexual messages every day, the subject of relationship and sexuality education for students with intellectual and developmental disabilities continues to be a taboo one. Generally speaking, the author has found it is not the parents of those young people who are reluctant to have the discussion, since they are usually well aware of their child's adolescent struggle. Rather, it is often on a professional level that there is fear expressed about opening a Pandora's Box. In this article, the author talks about this important issue. She argues that there must be a more proactive way to prepare young people with intellectual and developmental disabilities for healthy adult relationships, rather than providing this education and counseling after they had already placed themselves or others in harm's way. She stresses that educators consider for a moment how students with intellectual and developmental disabilities receive relationship and sexuality education where they live. She describes the most important skill educators can teach students with intellectual and developmental disabilities about relationships and sexuality.