"The talk" is culturally understood to mean a discussion whereby both partners in a relationship reveal their feelings about each other and their commitment to a future together. Typically, one partner feels a greater need to clarity the future and instigates "the talk." This study reports the analysis of a 15 item questionnaire completed by 211 undergraduates in regard to "the talk" to identify the length of the relationship before the talk (65% had "the talk" within one year, 36% within six months) and context (usually during a meal). The most frequent (30%) strategy was direct ("What do you see as far as the future of this relationship?) or questioning of motives (15%) ("What do you want out of this relationship?"). The most frequent reaction from the partner was that he or she "wanted a future" (50.5%) or "did not know" (32.5%). Nine percent told the partner that there was no future and 14% broke up. Social exchange theory is used to explain initiating "the talk." Implications and limitations are suggested.