Sleeping, eating, and toileting battles frustrate most adults--mainly because they cannot make children do it. Falling asleep (or not) is within a child's control. The same is true for chewing and swallowing, or withholding and releasing urine and feces. Sleeping, Eating, and Toileting (S.E.T.) create lots of frustration. An exhausted adult wants her child to sleep; an anxious parent expects her child to eat; and most adults are prepared to eliminate diapers long before children are. What can be done? First, adults need cooperation--but that may take an attitude shift. If adults control their own behavior, children learn to cooperate. Providing consistent routines, taking time for training, modifying expectations, and involving children in ways that encourage are all within adult control. When children sleep, eat, or use the toilet is within theirs. Once adults accept this, it is more likely that all will be set for better rest, less indigestion, and fewer diapers.