In implementing behavior management, which allows children the freedom to make their own choices and then rewards them for making good choices, many parents and teachers have forgotten to limit children to choices that are theirs to make, and therefore fail to teach children the skills they need to become responsible, cooperative, and productive. This book presents a four-part discipline system designed to raise responsible children: training compliance, teaching skills, and managing choices. Part 1 of this book, "Discipline Gone Awry," describes how current discipline systems fail to set limits and explores problems in negotiating with children for compliance. The remaining parts of the book each correspond with the 3 steps of the system. Part 2 discusses compliance with fundamental rules as a habit trained through direct supervision and direct instruction. Part 3 presents information on teaching responsible behavior to children directly, the use of positive practice, the importance of practicing behaviors before they are needed, and teaching self-discipline. Part 4 concerns managing choices and discusses the importance of making decisions for children until they are mature enough to make decisions for themselves; this part also discusses chores, grades, courtesy, positive family relationships, setting standards, motivation and the concept of self-esteem, prevention, and dealing with lying and stealing, homework, disputes, temper tantrums, interruptions, teasing, and fighting. The book concludes with the charge that parents become committed to teaching their children skills and attitudes they need, make a commitment to their own authority, and insist on growth in their children. (KB)