What role does compassion play in one's work? In the author's organization, the word "compassion" has been mostly linked to their values, mission, and programs. She has generally understood the concept of compassion as a deep feeling of empathy that flows from oneself towards others during certain situations and conditions. In her mind, "having compassion" means doing something kind, decent, or useful for an unfortunate "other". This uncomplicated notion of compassion thrived along with her internal notions of love, fairness, and ethical engagement until a few years ago. That was when she realized that self-compassion is a condition precedent to developing a sense of real compassion for others and that it constitutes a transformative life experience. In this article, the author describes the emotional labor involved in her work as an affirmative action officer, particularly in sexual harassment cases. Although people often focus on the two major players in such cases, the alleged victim and the accused, the author reminds everybody that in her role as mediator, investigator, and advisor, her emotions are stretched and long-held beliefs and values confronted. In her case, notions of compassion are challenged and, through thorough self-examination, redefined.