The handbook presents exercises to help parents of handicapped children become more assertive in securing services for their children. An introductory section explains the basic premises of the handbook: (1) that parents are equal partners with professionals; (2) that parents are the authority on their child; and (3) that parents have 10 specific rights, including rights to question decisions regarding their child and to make mistakes without feeling guilty. Assertive and nonassertive behaviors are contrasted. A second section is devoted to developing positive attitudes while eliminating negative ones, and contains chapters with titles such as "How to Get Rid of the Shakes and Put Punch in Your Speeches" and "How to Put Down the Put Down." The third section, on assertiveness at special education meetings, discusses the parents' role in individualized education program meetings and due process hearings. Assertiveness exercises follow which focus on dealing with the bureaucracy through such techniques as repetition and escalation. A section on assertiveness with bureaucrats and public officials includes suggestions for public hearings and use of the media. A final section presents accounts of parents and family members who achieved success through assertive behavior. (CL)